Monday, December 15, 2008
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
Pidigan Town Fiesta
Monday, December 1, 2008
Making It Work Long-Distance
I've often wondered how my parents made it work despite being miles apart for decades. I find it difficult to imagine being with someone and not really being WITH that someone.
TIME offers some tips on how to bridge the distance and keep the flame alive.
How about you, any tips on how to make it work long distance?1. Play together.
So, your beloved is never around to help carry groceries or take you to the movies. But, consider this: Every time you see each other it's like a mini-vacation — a geographic and emotional holiday. "I lived in Seattle, he lived in San Francisco," says Aida,* a 40-year-old writer, who sometimes waited a month and a half between visits with her boyfriend. "We would meet each other on the California-Oregon border — we each had to drive six to seven hours to get there — for a long weekend of camping, hiking, drinking and sex."
But even when you don't travel, you can still keep that vacation glow alive. Jackson West, a San Francisco-based blogger, says when his New York City girlfriend comes to visit, "I love showing her around San Francisco — it feels more like an extended weekend date, or even a trip. We both make a special effort to do interesting things that we probably wouldn't if we'd started seeing each in the same city."
Of course there are limits to how much "vacationing" couples should do. You don't want to cram so much activity into a day that you forget to enjoy some quiet time as a couple — after all, this is a real relationship, not pure fantasy.
2. Manage expectations.
Eleanor Estes, an L.A.-based stylist, found herself in an extreme LDR when her boyfriend moved back to his native Greece. Like Aida, she indulged in the romance of the far-flung affair: "I loved the coming together and then leaving part," Estes confides. "It was always so thrilling."
After four years of doing the long-distance thing, Estes finally picked up and moved to Greece. Problem was, she hadn't sufficiently prepared for the hardship and loneliness of life in a foreign country, away from her friends and family, and without a job. She found herself having to return to the U.S. every three months to renew her tourist visa, which didn't help her already wearisome fish-out-of-water status. "It was difficult because I was moving somewhere where I didn't speak the language and I wasn't allowed to work. It was a new country, an impossible language and I had no friends. I put a lot of pressure on him to help me get those things, but it was too much of a change for me."
In any relationship — and especially LDRs — people can't expect their partners to be their caretakers. If you make a life-changing decision like moving cities to be together, try to establish your own support network as soon as possible, whether that means making a few friends of your own, finding a job or joining a group that shares similar interests. And remember that you each need to maintain your independence and understand that your lives don't revolve solely around one another. Love, companionship and sex should be a given, but you also need to make time for your own interests — and for those of your partner.
3. Talk constantly.
It's hard enough to communicate when you live in the same house, let alone hundreds of miles apart. That's why, despite the distance, faraway couples actually need to communicate more than those who wake up next to each other every day.
Keep up a constant stream of emails and texts, but keep in mind that they're rife with potential for misinterpretation. A dashed-off note mentioning a brilliant new coworker might have been idle chatter for you, but it could throw your partner into paroxysms of jealousy — particularly between couples who miss each other, haven't seen each other in weeks and might be feeling a little insecure. So, that means you have to talk. West says he and his girlfriend communicate through "daily email and text messages, and many phone calls in a week." He often uses instant messaging with friends, but he reserves the phone for his partner: "Why text chat when we can talk on the phone?"
4. Take chances and have faith.
Analisa,* a writer in Rhode Island, has just embarked on an intercontinental coupling with a Parisian illustrator who responded to her profile on an online personals site. "He said he found the French dating sites very depressing, so he was poking around the Anglo sites and saw me," she says. "He said he could tell from what I'd written in my ad that I was a good person, so he sent an email on a whim."
That act of optimism sparked some serious cross-cultural canoodling. The two began corresponding regularly (luckily, Analisa is fluent in French) and decided to meet up in San Francisco, where he was traveling for business. "You never know if chemistry is going to be there when you meet in person, but the rapport we established through our letters translated perfectly," says Analisa.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Outstanding Ad, Funny Sign in China
I cannot help but recall some of the mis-translated signs in China.
I don't really get this sign. Step to the moon? Is it referring to large holes, ie craters?!
And I got lost in the first line of this one. Hyphenated word of the week: "Fake-cracking"
And just to show that China does not have the monopoly of funny signs, Peter of Travellerspoint gathered 20 signs from around the world.
This is my favorite from Travellerspoint collection, a sign in India. Woohoo!
Remember similar funny signs seen elsewhere? Share it.
Saturday, November 15, 2008
Hundred Islands of Friendship
I read somewhere that relationships don't end. They just transform.
Ah, just like in the islands, the ebb and flow of the tides may change but the waves always kiss the shores.
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Singapore's Underwater World
That's why during a trip to Singapore, I made it a point to visit Sentosa Island. If five million tourists who troop to the famous island resort annually think it's worth their while, then so am I.
Sentosa means "peace and tranquility" in Malay. The island boasts of a two-kilometer sheltered beach, two golf courses, Fort Siloso--one of the batteries during World War II--and my favorite, the Underwater World.
Then I embarked on a spectacular underwater journey through the 83-metre-long moving travelator with a tunnel housing the majestic rays, fearsome sharks, great shoals of other fishes and a host of other creatures that inhabit the ocean depths.
It was an amazing experience. It was literally being underwater with huge dugongs swimming above--without getting wet .
But Filipinos need not fly to nearby Singapore for a taste of an underwater thrill. Manila Ocean Park partly opened its doors in March this year.
It is owned by China Oceanis Philippines Inc, a subsidiary of China Oceanis Inc, a Singaporean-registered firm that has operated four oceanariums in China.
Monday, November 10, 2008
One summer day in Montreal
Sunday, November 9, 2008
Chocolate Festival in Turin
Just a two-hour drive from Milan, Turin is known as the home of the Shroud of Turin and the headquarters of the car company Fiat.
Turin boasts of a glorious past. Aside from being the capital of the Kingdom of Sardinia, Turin was the first capital of the unified Italy.
Walking on the streets of Turin, one would see a refreshing blend of the 'old' and the 'new'--relics of old structures, an internet cafe along a narrow street, dusty marble statues in the center of imposing piazzas and newly-constructed office complexes.
A trip to the Chocolate Festival is a perfect adventure, whether you are with a sweetheart or in a date with yourself.
Just don't forget to bring one thing: your sweet tooth.
Saturday, November 8, 2008
How to get documents authenticated for UAE
So, you finally decided to work in Dubai or Abu Dhabi. You will definitely need to submit documents (Transcript of Records, diploma, etc) which were authenticated by the UAE Embassy in Manila.
The process of authenticating UAE-required documents has been simplified (yes, believe me, it used to be very complicated).
Step 1: Bring documents for authentication to the issuing government agency. In the case of Transcript of Records and diploma, go to any CHED regional office.
Step 2: Receive a DFA claim stub which indicates the date of release of authenticated documents from DFA. It is very important that you keep the stub and follow the release date.
Step 3: Claim the authenticated documents from DFA. If you will send a representative to pick up the document, be sure to write an authorization letter and attach a copy of your ID which shows your signature. Fee: P100.00.
Step 4: Send DFA authenticated documents to the UAE Embassy through any branch of DHL Wide Wide World Express. There is no other way of submitting documents for authentication to the UAE Embassy except through DHL Wide Wide World Express. Take note, not all DHL are Wide Wide World Express.
Fees:
P1,700.00 per DFA red ribbon
P 50.00 - DHL charge for converting your cash to Manager's cheque (don't ask, its just like that)
P P385.00 - DHL courier charge (within Metro Manila)
TOTAL: P2,135.00
Processing: 5-7 working days
Step 5: DHL delivers your documents.
There is a way to trim the process to 3 easy steps although it will take more time.
First, submit your documents to DFA. and receive your claim stub.
Second, go to any branch of DHL WWWExpress. Submit the stub, pay the DFA fee of P100.00, pay P2,135.00 fee for UAE and pay the P385.00 courier fee. DHL will claim your document from DFA and forward it to the UAE Embassy.
Third, receive the authenticated document delivered to your address. Processing: 15 days
Important:
Allot sufficient time, about 1 month, to secure your documents and submit them for authentication.
For further information:
For a list of documents for authentication, visit the DFA Website. You may also download an authentication form. It also contains contact information of relevant government agencies. You may also call DFA at (632) 834-4000 (trunkline) and request that you be connected to the Authentication Office.
Update from OFW Abroad:
The DFA advises that beginning 12 March 2008, all unclaimed DFA Authentication Certificates will be disposed of after three (3) months from the scheduled date of release due to lack of storage space in the Authentication releasing area. This measure is also to minimize the risk of fire hazard in the area.